The Confidence Factor: Feeling Like a Fraud?
Many startup business owners confide in me that they feel like a fraud. They feel like they are pretending in this game of business and one of their motivations for having a business coach is to get more confident in knowing what they are doing.
Then there are other people who take the ‘fake it til you make it’ approach. Often jumping from strategy to strategy, idea to idea, shiny object to shiny object… hoping desperately that something will work and they’ll become the highly successful business owner they fantasize is possible.
I was enjoying a great conversation on Facebook this week about the differences between ‘acting’ and ‘acting as if’ in business and when it’s okay to fake it. To me they are two different energies.When we act we are being an energy – we are inhabiting a presence that comes from somewhere deep inside of us. We are being the energy required to have a successful business, even if it feels a little different to our usual persona. Just like a great actor does in a movie… when you really believe it could be true, that is acting!
When we are ‘acting as if’ we have started on the journey towards acting, but we are still in the zone of pretending we know what we are doing. Underneath our ‘acting as if’ we still feel a bit like a fraud, we are still feeling like someone is going to find out we don’t have a clue any moment now… the self-doubt comes to the fore. That’s more like being a C grade actor… everyone knows you are pretending!!
So what’s your strategy? Are you going to ‘fake it ‘til you make it’ or are you ready to embody a presence that makes people sit up straight and take notice of what you are doing? If you are choosing to have presence, you need an underpinning of knowing (rather than knowledge!).
This is that sense within yourself that you know intuitively what is right for your business and you are willing to move forward with confidence. You may not have all of the specific knowledge required (that is where a business coach or mentor comes in), but you do have an innate knowing that you have what it takes and your business is positioned to succeed.
This doesn’t mean you won’t take a few detours along the way – these often take us to places not imagined, but useful in an unexpected way! There will be tweaks and about turns… new paths and the occasional crash to a stop… None of these things mean you are faking it! Discovery and growth is part of the adventure of being in business! What will keep you going is that underlying presence that you bring to your adventures. When you are clear and calm within yourself, so much more is possible!
So would you like to explore the essence of having more presence? Join us at New Energies of BusinessTM – we are including some coaching hotspots this time… so a great opportunity to ask your questions of people who really understand presence! Bookings and more info at www.NewEnergiesOfBusiness.com
Upcoming dates: 30 November 2011 in Brisbane and February 2012 on the Sunshine Coast.